You have to know what you want.

Up until now this blog has been simply to share a review of the varied types of events that we organise. Now, I think it is time to give an insight into the other areas that we here at Classical Partners get involved with on a daily basis.

Since we are an introduction agency, the main thing people who come to us are looking for is a relationship. It may be only four syllables but it can mean so many different things.

We always ask clients what they are looking for in a relationship and not surprisingly we get answers like: companionship, a sole mate, someone to share my life with, sex, mutual support, stability, and compassion are all things that crop up time and time again and can mean different things to different people.

The first thing you have to come to terms with is that men and women are different. The 2008 Great Male Survey carried out by askmen.com and its partner the 2008 Great Female Survey show some interesting results that largely reinforce the commonly held stereotypes, for example 29% of men would like to change their female partner’s sexual appetite, the figure for women is just 12%. The survey leaves you to draw your own conclusions as to which direction they want to change it in! Once you accept some of the differences between the sexes it is easier to see that what they are searching for in a relationship may be different.

Initially this makes it seem like there is no hope for a successful relationship between the sexes but history has shown that this is most definitely not the case. Luckily there are lots of people who do not conform to the commonly held stereotypes. The trick is to find someone who shares your relationship requirements. Even Carrie Bradshaw and Mr Big managed it in the end.

The first step to achieving this is to understand your own needs. After all it is much easier to find something if you know what it is you are looking for. Do you want someone who is always at your side? Some people will find this too confining. I know people who have very happy and fulfilling relationships who do not live together and have separate social lives. Yet they holiday together and have a healthy sex life. Which approach is right for you? For most people the answer will lie somewhere in between these two extremes.

If your relationship needs are to be met, the partner must be aware of what they are. You have to let them know what these needs are. It is important to communicate openly or your partner will be left guessing, so let them know your needs, and let them tell you theirs. It will not be surprising for you both to discover that often your needs are quite different.

Here at Classical Partners we try very hard to get people to understand their requirements even though this may be difficult. I am sure the same is true for the other Agencies that are members of ABIA. Our clients need to tell us what they are looking for. In order to do this they must first to think about it and if they are honest with themselves we can be very successful at finding them the person they can have a relationship with.